Offering a sympathetic ear

Sometimes it’s enough to be a silent, comforting presence at your loved one’s side, or a shoulder to cry on. By simply being there in the right place at the right time, you offer the bereaved a safe space to express their emotional turmoil through words or tears.

Breaking isolation by offering an activity

People going through bereavement can tend to isolate themselves with their grief, turning inwards and cutting off communication with the outside world. So it’s important to reach out and break down the wall of solitude. Suggest an activity that the bereaved person will enjoy. Go for a coffee or share a meal in a peaceful place to talk, offer to take the person out in nature, or take a simple walk around the neighbourhood to get them out of their confinement.

Sharing memories

Share with the bereaved any happy anecdotes you have about the deceased, the aim being to make them smile. Keeping the memory of the deceased alive can be a balm for the bereaved. If you can’t do it in person, you can always send a card or letter detailing a pleasant or funny story, to reassure the bereaved that the deceased is still well remembered and in people’s hearts.

Concrete actions

Offer concrete support, such as cooking and bringing a dish, helping with paperwork or clearing out the deceased’s personal belongings, walking the pet or doing a chore for them. These small gestures reassure your loved one that they are not alone and that they are supported in their grief and in their bereavement process, as well as taking a weight off their shoulders. The period following a death is full of tasks, and an extra helping hand is always welcome.

Referral to professional help

Sometimes our presence and help, however well-intentioned, are not enough. In these cases, you need to be able to recognise the signs that further assistance is needed. If the bereaved suffers from prolonged insomnia, doesn’t eat enough or doesn’t enjoy any activities in the long-term, it may be wise to gently guide them towards a counsellor, at their own pace. Urgel Bourgie/Athos works with Réflexions du Cœur, a Quebec company specialising in bereavement counselling. Letting professionals take the lead can sometimes be necessary.

In short, however you support a bereaved loved one, the most important thing is to make your presence known. By showing concern for the well-being of your loved one, you are already taking the first step towards providing essential encouragement. Let Urgel Bourgie/Athos and its 120 years of experience support you through this difficult time. Contact our dedicated team at 514-735-2025. Our ultimate mission is to accompany you through this difficult stage of life.